Birth Father Questions
“A hero is someone who understands the responsibility that comes with his freedom.”
Whether you just found out your girlfriend is pregnant or you discovered you are father to a child already born, you probably have questions…
Explore questions and answers about adoption from a man’s perspective.
You Are Not Alone
Millions of men and women experience unplanned or unexpected pregnancies every year, and there are many resources to help you with making decisions.
The term “birth father” is warmer than “biological father”, and often refers to the biological father of a child placed for adoption. And that is who this site is geared toward, men who, along with their child’s mother, may be exploring or considering adoption for their child. Answers for your questions are available for you, 24/7, by calling. or texting. 1-800-923-6784.
Can you provide for your child? Birth parents choose adoption for many reasons. Some chose adoption because they know they can’t provide for a child’s needs at this time in life.
Do you have a question about a father’s role in unexpected pregnancy? We would be happy to provide you with a personalized answer for your specific circumstances.
See Waiting Families
Finding an adoptive family for your baby is a great way to provide the best future possible for your child. And remember, it’s never too early or too late in your pregnancy to start looking for that perfect family!
You may simply be asking: What do I do with my life and an unplanned pregnancy? Can I make it through this? If I’m not ready to parent, what can I do?
Facing an unplanned pregnancy can seem surreal to many guys. This decision you are facing can be as difficult as it is for the birth mother, but there is help. You can request an adoption kit and find answers to your questions. And there is always a caring coordinator on call 24 hours a day. 800-923-6784. Click to call. or Click to text.
Explore questions and answers about adoption from a man’s perspective
“My parents want to raise the baby instead of adoption, but they are too old and I don’t want my child raised by relatives. It would be too hard. I want to give my son or daughter a chance to make something of themselves, do better than my life and have a chance to travel and go to college. Maybe private school. I know a girlfriend that had older parents and by the time was 22 they had both died. I want my child to have siblings, grandparents and younger parents to raise him or her. I want them to have two parents and a dog. A room of their own and vacations with family. Things I didn’t have. I can create this for him or her by choosing adoption for them. I have some say on the life they will have. I want to give that to my child. I want to go to school myself and someday my child will be proud of me and what I made of myself.” – Dwayne, a birth father who, along with his girlfriend, chose adoption for their son
I’m feeling all these emotions I’ve never felt before. Shame, embarrassment and sadness – what is up with this?
Real Life Birth Father Interview
An unplanned pregnancy in any relationship is life-changing and brings on lots of feelings and emotions. The news of an unexpected pregnancy can drastically alter the plans of many people’s lives. This can be challenging, especially if things were going well, you were on track for school, work or even a new relationship. This news doesn’t have to be bad, but it does have to be thought through.
- How will my decision affect me now and in years to come?
- How will my decision affect the child and his or her mother? Their future?
- What do I want?
- What’s best?
- How can I make the right decision even if it’s the hardest?
- Who can I turn to for help and support? Who will understand?
Take the time you need to process through all of the emotions that come with an unplanned pregnancy. If it’s possible, process these emotions together with the mother. Give each other room to work through the negative feelings — fear, frustration, anger, hurt, embarrassment and confusion — that come with unplanned pregnancy. Even though it’s hard and even though things are going to change, they can change for the better in the end. You can do the right thing and feel you had some control over the outcome.